Dead Beats

something that really gets me is i am a single father of a wonderful 14 year old have been separated from his mother for almost 3 years and i give her 2 years to voluntarily pay child support and she refused so i take her for child support and she tells the people i work with that im a worthless father but i have been the one taking care of him by myself all this time and she is the on that took all of his christmas back in 2009 because he didnt want anything to do with her and in 2010 she didnt so much as call him for easter or his birthday or that christmas he got nothing from her not even a card but its my fault he hates her and not to mention the first year i was separated from her she would call him and tell him she was coming to get him and then the day of she would call me and tell me she had something to do with someone elses kid and couldnt come to see him and i would have to tell him and it would break my heart because i knew he wanted to see her its not me hurting its him because he knows his mom is worthless what do u tell a child to comfort him he acts like he dont care then he will bring up the past and i know he wants to see her but what am i suppose to do i cant make her be a good mom and something else for the last 2 years she will come into his life and promise him things like a cell phone or a beach trip and then he never gets it why would a parent promise there child anything without knowing if there gonna be able to do it because then there disapointment why would a parent do that